Kaleidoscope Of Life

I've finally managed to read Tuesdays with Morrie and there're some parts of the book which i'd love to share...beautiful thoughts...

"So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning." (p.43)

"...if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too--even when you're in the dark." (p.61)

"If you hold back on the emotions--if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them--you can never get to being detached, you're too busy being afraid." (p.104)

"We...need to forgive ourselves...For all the things we didn't do. All the things we should have done. You can't get stuck on the regrets of what should have happened." (p.166)

"You have to find what's good and true and beautiful in your life as it is now. Looking back makes you competitive. And, age is not a competitive issue." (p.120)

"...if you're trying to show off for people at the top, forget it. They will look down on you anyhow. And if you're trying to show off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone." (p.127)

"...no matter where you live, the biggest defect we human beings have is our shortsightedness. We don't see what we could be. We should be looking at our potential, stretching ourselves into everything we can be come." (p.156)

"Death ends a life, not a relationship." (p.174)

"There is no formula to relationships. They have to be negotiated in loving ways, with room for both parties, what they want and what they need, what they can do and what their life is like." (p.177,178)

"A man of few words"...that is how normally many people would describe my dad, or rather, abah. I couldn't agree more...:-)

Father's Day was yesterday...and i know many don't think that we should celebrate Father's Day, for various reasons; some say, in Islam, there's no such thing as that, and some say everyday we should show appreciation towards our fathers and mothers, so there's no need for all the hype to do various things; dinner, gifts, flowers, wishes etc on a certain day. All those are true, but i don't think there's anything wrong in showing extra appreciation to my parents on those particular dates.

Abah, it's been 13 years now and i miss doing some things for you be it on Father's Day, on your birthday or on yours and mom's wedding anniversary.
There were many things i wanted to do, taking you out for a really good dinner, hanging out with you and talking about some really interesting books i've been reading, discussing life, discussing just about anything.
Ah yes, I miss our fights...(-: ; of the fact that I can never win an argument with you, well it would normally just end up with me getting all riled up and leaving the discussion...hmmm..but i'd definitely be better in control of my emotions and able to give sound justifications now;-)
I miss the quiet moments we had, the silence never seemed to bother us during the drive we used to have on our usual trip to fetch zareen from work...in fact, those moments are the ones i truly remember and i have realised then that words were not necessary in the company of someone we love dearly...
I miss hearing to the fascinating stories during your younger days. It never tires me to hear those stories of yours.
I miss hearing your voice reciting the Quran every morning especially during ramadhan...it's very soothing and calming.
I miss the time you would gently wake all of us(even mom;-)) up for sahur to some nice hot food.
I miss your cooking. hmmm yummy...the mee kuah, the fried rice, the many other delicious and creative dishes you managed to come up with.
I miss seeing your reactions while watching football or wrestling on tv ..hahaha...
I miss seeing your excitement whenever we were to bring good results home.
I miss the feeling of anticipation for yours and moms' visit when i was in hostel and uni.
I miss coming back home during holidays, alighting the bus and finding the familiar face sharing my delight.
I miss the warm and reassuring hugs you give.
I miss many other little things you used to do for us.
Above all, I miss your quiet love for all of us.

I may not be able to do the things i wish to do for my father now, but I am contented. I have the memories still and I love how i feel whenever i think of this part of my life. i do feel devastated, no.... i believe that is still too mild a word to use to describe how i feel at times when the memories flood in...but i embrace that feeling and smile through my tears....

So, for those out there who still have a chance to experience life with your fathers , seize the time and make the most out of it, don't hesitate to express your love towards our fathers, and of course mothers :-) for you never know what is in store for you tomorrow...kal ho na ho.

To abah, Happy Father's Day.
Al-fatihah...

so...i went to jusco yesterday with my housemate...for the sole purpose of having some good brunch at coffee bean...well a week in masjid tanah and tired of the food here...we wanted true western food;-)
as i was slipping into my slippers before going out the door, i realised i have to get a new pair, some stones are missing already he he hee...so Vincci came to mind...i did notice some pretty slips the week before when in Midvalley, but it was extremely crowded and i could only buy a pair! *sigh*
so...after fettucini and pure chocolate ice blended...hmmm( so yummy!)we headed to Vincci, and it struck me, that the school hols is still not over, so i guess you guys could imagine the peps there...it was a challenge to get from coffee bean to vincci!
so there were many times when i knocked into people or them knocking into me...and yes of course, 'sorry' comes out may times from me...but from those ppl who knocked into me or the people i said sorry to, not a word! and sometimes what i get is an accusing look for being in their way! hey people where are your manners? if you knock into someone, could you pleasseeeeee have some courtesy to say 'sorry'? and if someone knocks into you and says 'sorry' the response here is not a glare you all...but 'it's ok'!!!
and if you need to pass me by, have you ever heard of 'excuse me'? all these are so frustrating!!!

you know i think many malaysians have got to improve on this....many don't have courtesy! or rather don't even know what courtesy is...i couldn't help thinking, if the adults (and here i mean parents or future parents) can't even say excuse me and sorry...what can we expect from their kids? obviously children learn from observing their parents, as every teaching begins at home...even i'm not a parent and i know this! of course i am a teacher after all ;-)

therefore, i'd just like to emphasise this to all the students here in KMM, please please please practice courtesy in your life especially in this college....coz from my experience, here it's the same, not many are courteous...

so my dears....
always remember to treat other people as how you want to be treated....before you want to say or do anything to anyone, put yourself in that person's shoes, if you think you'll feel hurt with that remark or action, keep it to yourself and don't say or do it.

*hugs*

First meeting with the new bloggers...i'd say an overwhelming response...
looks like an enthusiastic bunch...
lots of questions...and some very cheeky questions as well...haa boys? 'continuous' is the word;-)

hope to see those enthusiasm in your blogs as well...

over and out!